Wednesday, July 31, 2013

Chizy's Spyware second edition with Munachi Abii

Chizy's Spyware is a fashion & lifestyle Magazine for the modern day African woman
 

We sometimes forget to be thankful for the ever bright weather enjoyed in this part of the world, so in this edition, we are celebrating the daily sunshine by splashing our cover girl and models with colors, sequins and other embellishment. We hope this edition serves as inspiration for your next shopping spree. It gets more interesting on page 42 as young African men answer questions most women secretly ponder about. You won't want to miss page 39 where DJ Jam Jam (Oyibo Swagger) talks about his experience in Nigeria; including the girls, the food and much more.
The magazine is available for purchase in Nigeria, in some UK stores and available for online download and subscription at  http://chizys-spyware.com/download-the-magazine/  for those who are unable to buy the hard copy.  

 





photography: Paul Ukonu
Styling: Sharon Ojong
Clothing: Total Wrap Boutique
Makeup: Chichi (Faceville Makeovers)
 
Q & A With

MUNACHI ABII

Q: Who was your first male crush?

A: Michael Jackson



Q: What was you nickname as a child?

A: Ochonma.



Q: When was the last time you took public transport?

A:  Last year, but it was a cab


 Q: When was the last time you said “do you know who I am”?

A: I never have



Q: The beauty product you cannot do without?

A: Lux



Q: The Perfect holiday for you would be?

A: A holiday in Maldives Island with my loved ones.



Q: I feel sexiest dressed in?

A: High heels



Q: Waking up early to me means?

A: 9:00am

B: 11:00am

C: 5:30am  

D: 7:00am



Chizy Spyware: Your fans have noticed your wardrobe change recently; do you have a new stylist?

Munachi Abii: Yes I do, Sharon Ojong is my new stylist



Chizy Spyware: What do you miss about not being a celebrity?

Munachi Abii: I do not consider myself a celebrity; I am just a regular person.

You are all invited to


The unveiling party of the magazine is being hosted by the 'Industry Night' team and supported by Soundcity.

Come party with us, entry is free and free copies of the next edition of our magazine would be given out. Be RED CARPET & CAMERA ready, dress to impress...

Hosted by INDUSTRY NITE, Supported by SOUNDCITY TV

'   Get Arena' Lekki, Lagos ,Nigeria (opposite Oriental hotel)

           Date; Wednesday the 31st of July 2013
           time; 10pm

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Tuesday, July 30, 2013

Small business tips ; Grow your business




Are you are out of your depth ?

 A lot of times, especially early on in our businesses, we look for clients in the wrong places.
 Make sure you are talking to your ideal client, and not just anybody who may need what you offer, but may not be able to afford it.

Other tips to grow your small business are
  1. Prepare a detailed profile of your  ideal client , it would give you a clearer picture of even your own business and then search for people who fit the bill.  
  2. Make your services easy to use and also easily accessible
  3. Have a healthy social media presence , start with the basics, facebook , twitter, instagram ,pinterest and LinkedIn amongst others
  4. Strive to improve people’s lives through better service, innovation and value.
  5. Know your mission and let your business live by it
  6. Get the basic structure right from the very beginning
  7. Build strong relationships with such suppliers,vendors, financiers and business associates generally
  8. Truly listen to your customers , find out what they want and give it to them!

Monday, July 29, 2013

Plus sized print dresses

I would so rock these,
Looking hot while being plus sized can be a little tricky,
I am always on the look out for styles ,colors and trends that flatter me,
Which is your fave?






Saturday, July 27, 2013

Leather outfits

Leather is one of the hottest trends this season,
Are you adventurous enough to try them?








Friday, July 26, 2013

16 Ways I Blew My Marriage


16 Ways I Blew My Marriage (By Dan Peace

You know what blows big time?

The other night I was sitting with my family, most of whom are very successfully married. We were going in a circle giving our best marriage advice to my little sister on the eve of her wedding. It’s somewhat of a family tradition.

But that’s not what blows. What really blows is that I realized I don’t have any good marriage advice to give. After all, I’ve never had a successful marriage out of the two marriages I did have.

And so, when it was my turn, I just made a joke about divorce and how you should always remember why you loved your spouse when you first met her so that when times get tough, you can find someone new that is just like she was.

There were a couple courtesy giggles, but overall my humor wasn’t welcome in such a beautifully building ring of profunidity.

They finished round one, and for some reason started into another round. And that’s when I realized. Hey. I don’t have marriage advice to give, but I have plenty of “keep your marriage from ending” advice (two equivocally different things), and that might be almost as good.

It eventually came to me again, and what I said would have been such great advice if I were a tenth as good at saying things as I was at writing them.

And so, that night, I sat down and wrote out my “advice list” for my little sister. You know… things I wish I would have known or done differently so that I didn’t end up divorced (twice). After writing it, I thought maybe I’d share it with all of you, too.

I call it my “Ways I Blew My Marriage” list. Also, for the list’s sake, I am just going to refer to “her” instead of “them” even though they almost all were true in both marriages.


1. DON’T STOP HOLDING HER HAND

When I first dated the woman I ended up marrying, I always held her hand. In the car. While walking. At meals. At movies. It didn’t matter where. Over time, I stopped. I made up excuses like my hand was too hot or it made me sweat or I wasn’t comfortable with it in public. Truth was, I stopped holding hands because I stopped wanting to put in the effort to be close to my wife. No other reason.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d hold her hand in the car. I’d hold her hand on a star. I’d hold her hand in a box. I’d hold her hand with a fox. And I’d hold her hand everywhere else, too, even when we didn’t particularly like each other for the moment.

BONUS! When you hold hands in the winter, they don’t get cold. True story.

2. Don’t stop trying to be attractive.

Obviously when I was working to woo her, I would do myself up as attractively as I possibly could every time I saw her. I kept perfectly groomed. I always smelled good. I held in my farts until she wasn’t around. For some reason, marriage made me feel like I could stop doing all that. I would get all properly groomed, smelling good, and dressed up any time we went out somewhere or I went out by myself, but I rarely, if ever, cared about making myself attractive just for her.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d try and put my best foot forward throughout our entire marriage. I’d wait to fart until I was in the bathroom whenever possible. I’d make myself desirable so that she would desire me.

BONUS! when you trim your man hair, guess what. She returns the favor.

3. Don’t always point out her weaknesses.

For some reason, somewhere along the way, I always ended up feeling like it was my place to tell her where she was weak and where she could do better. I sure as heck didn’t do that while we were dating. No, when I dated her I only built her up, only told her how amazing she was, and easily looked past all of her flaws. After we got married though, she sometimes couldn’t even cook eggs without me telling her how she might be able to improve.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I wouldn’t say a damned thing about anything that I thought could use improvement. I’ve learned since my marriage ended that there is more than one right way to do most things, and that the imperfections of others are too beautiful to try and change.

BONUS! when you tell her what she’s doing right, she’ll tell you what you’re doing right. And she’ll also tell her friends. And her family. And the dentist. And even strangers on the street.

4. Don’t stop cooking for her.

I knew how to woo a girl, for sure. And the ticket was usually a night in, cooking a nice meal and having a romantic evening. So why is it then, that I didn’t do that for her after we got married? Sure, I’d throw some canned soup in the microwave or fry up some chimichangas once in a while, but I rarely if ever went out of my way to sweep her off her feet after we were married by steaming crab legs, or making fancy pasta, or setting up a candlelit table.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d make it a priority to cook for her, and only her, something awesome at least every month. And I’d remember that meat in a can is never awesome.

BONUS! candlelit dinners often lead to candlelit bow chica bow-wow.

5. Don’t yell at your spouse.

I’m not talking about the angry kind of yelling. I’m talking about the lazy kind of yelling. The kind of yelling you do when you don’t want to get up from your television show or you don’t want to go ALL THE WAY UPSTAIRS to ask her if she’s seen your keys. It really doesn’t take that much effort to go find her, and yelling (by nature) sounds demanding and authoritative.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d try to go find her anytime I needed something or wanted to know something, and I’d have both gratitude and manners when I did. I always hated when she would yell to me, so why did I always feel it was okay to yell to her?

BONUS! sometimes you catch her doing something cute that you would have missed otherwise.

6. Don’t call names.

I always felt I was the king of not calling names, but I wasn’t. I may not have called her stupid, or idiot, or any of the other names she’d sometimes call me, but I would tell her she was stubborn, or that she was impossible, or that she was so hard to deal with. Names are names, and calling them will drive bigger wedges in communication than just about anything else.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: Any time it got to the point that I wanted to call names, I’d call a time-out and come back to it later. Or better yet, I’d call her names, but they’d be names like “super sexy” or “hotness.

7. Don’t be stingy with your money.

As the main bread earner, I was always so stingy with the money. I’d whine about the cost of her shampoo or that she didn’t order water at restaurants, or that she’d spend so much money on things like pedicures or hair dye jobs. But seriously. I always had just as many if not more things that I spent my money on, and in the end, the money was spent, we were just fine, and the only thing my bitching and moaning did was bring undo stress to our relationship.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d tell her I trusted her to buy whatever she wanted, whenever she felt like she needed it. And then, I’d actually trust her to do it.
BONUS! sometimes she will make bad purchase decisions, which leads to makeup purchase she felt liLike that new gadget you’ve had your eyes on.

8. Don’t argue in front of the kids.

There was never any argument that was so important or pressing that we couldn’t wait to have it until the kids weren’t there. I don’t think it takes a rocket scientist or super-shrink to know why fighting in front of the kids is a dangerous and selfish way of doing things.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I would never, ever, not even once fight in front of the kids, no matter how big or how small the issue was. I’d maybe make a code word that meant, “not with the kids here.”

BONUS! when you wait to fight, usually you both realize how stupid or unimportant the fight was and the fight never happens.


10. Don’t poop with the bathroom door open.

I don’t know why, but at some point I started thinking it was okay to poop with the bathroom door open, and so did she. First of all, it’s gross. Second of all, it stinks everything up. Third of all, there is literally no way to make pooping attractive, which means that every time she saw me do it, she, at least in some little way, would have thought I was less attractive.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d shut the damn door and poop in private.

BONUS! when she does think of your naked body, she’s not going to be thinking about it in a grunting/squatting position.

11. Don’t stop kissing her.

It always got to a point when I’d more or less stop kissing her. Usually it was because things were stressful and there was tension in our relationship, and so I’d make it worse by refusing to kiss her. This of course would lead to her feeling rejected. Which would of course lead to arguments about it. Other times I had my own issues with germs and whatnot.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d kiss her in the morning when she looked like people do in the morning. I’d kiss her at night when she’s had a long day. I’d kiss her any time I felt like she secretly wanted a kiss. And, I’d kiss her even when my germ issues kicked in.

BONUS! she feels loved when you kiss her. That’s bonus enough.

12. Don’t stop having fun together.

Age shouldn’t matter. Physical ability shouldn’t matter. Couples should never stop having fun with each other, and I really wish I wouldn’t have gotten into so many ruts in which we didn’t really go out and do anything. And, I’ve been around the block enough times to know that when the fun is missing, and the social part of life is missing, so also goes missing the ability to be fully content with each other.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d make a rule with her that we’d never stay home two weekends in a row.

BONUS! awesome stories and awesome memories come from doing awesome things. And so do cherished embarrassing moments.

13. Don’t pressure each other.

Pressuring each other about anything is always a recipe for resentment. I always felt so pressured to make more money. I always felt so pressured to not slip in my religion. I always felt so pressured to feel certain ways about things when I felt the opposite. And I usually carried a lot of resentment. Looking back, I can think of just as many times that I pressured her, so I know it was a two-way street.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d make it a point to celebrate the different views, opinions, and ways that she had of doing things. I’d find the beauty in differentiation, not the threat.

BONUS! authentic happiness becomes a real possibility. And so do authentic foot rubs.

14. Don’t label each other with negative labels.

Sometimes the easiest phrases to say in my marriage started with one of three things. Either, “you should have,” “you aren’t,” or “you didn’t.” Inevitably after each of those seemed to come something negative. And since when have negative labels ever helped anyone? They certainly never helped her. Or me. Instead, they seemed to make the action that sparked the label worsen in big ways.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I would learn to stop myself before saying any of those phrases, and then I’d switch them out for positive labels. Instead of “you should,” I’d say “you are great at.” Instead of saying “you aren’t,” I’d say “you are.” Instead of saying “you didn’t,” I’d say, “you did.” And then I’d follow it up with something positive.

BONUS! the noblest struggles become far more conquerable. And you don’t think or believe that you’re a schmuck, which is always nice.
15. Don’t skip out on things that are important to her.

It was so easy in marriage to veto so many of the things she enjoyed doing. My reasoning, “we can find things we both enjoy.” That’s lame. There will always be things she enjoys that I will never enjoy, and that’s no reason not to support her in them. Sometimes the only thing she needs is to know that I’m there.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d attend many more of the events that she invited me to. I would actively participate and not tell all the reasons why I’d do it differently or how it could be better or more fun or time better spent.

BONUS! go to something she knows you don’t enjoy and the gratitude gets piled on later that night, like whipped cream on a cheesecake.

16. Don’t emotionally distance yourself after a fight.

I never got to experience the power of make-up sex because any time my wife was mean or we got in a fight, I’d completely distance myself from her, usually for several days. Communication would shut down and I’d avoid contact at all cost. This never let things get worked out, and eventually after it had happened enough times I’d explode unnecessarily.

IF I COULD HAVE A DO-OVER: I’d let myself communicate my emotions and feelings more often, and I’d make sure that she knew I still loved her any time we had an ugly bout. Sure, we’d give each other some distance. But not days of distance.

BONUS! Fantastic make-up sex. Or at least that’s the theory.

I had lots more written out, but the list started getting super long so I’ll stop right there and maybe do a part 2. It’s amazing when you’ve had relationships end, just how much you learn and know you could have done differently, isn’t it?

My sister and her new husband will be amazing. Hopefully she’ll always be giving amazing marriage advice in the future and never have to hand out the “keep your marriage from ending” advice like I get to.

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Hot Yellow numbers

While yellow isn't a colour that would normally come to mind when looking for an outfit,
I love these yellow numbers






Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Blog2watch ; Natural Nigerian

I have natural hair, so when i accidentally  stumbled on the Natural Nigerian Facebook page i was so exited. Life as a naturalista can sometimes be hard, especially in Nigeria where there is a serious scarcity of hair products for the natural Nigerian, hair salons for naturals don't exist at all (i think).


I went to one of their events , 'naturals in the city' (NITC) , it was a pleasant experience, there were ladies with all types of natural hair, it was a beautiful sight. NN (who has refused to tell me her real name) has all sorts of useful info on her website and Facebook page,

Do check it out
www.naturalnigerian.com/
www.facebook.com/NaturalNigerianpage
twitter.com/naturalnigerian



Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Monday, July 22, 2013

Style review; Tiwa Savage

Tiwa Savage, is a Nigerian singer-songwriter who is making serious waves with her music as well as her style. I like the fact that she takes risks with her style and most times gets it right.









Sunday, July 21, 2013

#childnotbride

Peggyz Place fully stands behind ‪#‎ChildnotBride‬. Some sick pedophiles in my country (Nigeria) who look at children and get an erection have managed to amend the constitution to remove an age of consent. Not lower it, REMOVE it completely. So that a, say, 5 year old once "married" becomes a bride.

The instigator already "married" a 13 year old a few years ago. I hear his "wife" before that was 15. He is well in his 50s and obviously the girls are getting too old for him so he progresses downwards. He now wants to make this Legal for him and others that are inclined.

Please take a minute to help us sign a petition here:
http://www.change.org/petitions/united-nations-stop-the-nigerian-senate-from-making-under-age-marriage-the-law

Thank you.


Friday, July 19, 2013

Jumpsuit

Which is your favorite?
A jumpsuit can be worn by anyone petite to plus sized,
It can also be worn to work and to play as well ,
Go get yours today










Thursday, July 18, 2013

The Woman Who Lives in a Boeing 727

culled from style pantry

Joanne Ussary bought this Boeing 727 plane for $2k and relocated it for $4k. She remodeled the 727 into a creative work of art, which she happens to live in.
Amenities include a jacuzzi in the cockpit, stairs opening with a garage door opener and has a gorgeous view! Ussary spent $30,000 on the whole project. Do you think it was money well spent? Enjoy!